Up until this
week, I had been blessed to still have all four of my grandparents here with
us. I had marveled at that fact a time
or two, as it feels like a special privilege these days to spend the first
thirty years of one’s life knowing four grandparents who not only love you, but
also still love their spouses and obviously love the Lord.
This week has
been a lot of things- sudden, surreal, and sad.
But it’s also made me stop and think about what an influence family has
over our lives. You can move away, you
can grow up, you can do your own thing – but wherever you go, whoever you are,
these people made you who you are. When
we look at our parents and grandparents, we always like to think we inherited
all the good parts and none of the not-so-good ones. With PawPaw, it was hard
to even see the not-so-good ones. He was
a good man, plain and simple. And so
much of his goodness runs through this family, it’s hard not to smile even in
the midst of the sadness.
The first thing
that comes to mind when I think of PawPaw is that he was so, so funny. When I was little, I remember often being
startled at the constant sound of laughter in MawMaw and PawPaw’s living
room. Not just polite chuckles but
deep-from-the-gut, belly-shaking bellows of laughter that could cause a little
girl to about jump out of her skin. One
of my favorite parts about visiting was that I always knew I’d go back to
school the next week with a new joke to tell my friends, straight from the lips
of PawPaw. He loved a good laugh, and he
kept us laughing. When I picture him,
that’s what I see- him throwing his head back in laughter and then quickly
looking back at us to see if we even understood the punch line yet. Something tells me heaven became a much
funnier place this week.
The other thing
you knew as soon as you met PawPaw is that he was smart. There wasn’t a topic he couldn’t weigh in on
and he was usually right. I don’t think
I even realized how far reaching his knowledge was until about a year ago when
he was in the hospital and my husband and I visited him. Something about the acoustics in the hospital
and the state of his hearing didn’t allow my female voice much of a chance in
the conversation, but he could still hear and carry on with Brent. I sat there for at least an hour listening to
those two talk: about work, about politics, about history, about engineering,
electronics, mechanics, and inventions and all I could do was shake my head and
wonder why I hadn’t cornered this man one-on-one for a conversation like this
before. He knew a little something about
everything.
Again, we prefer
to think that these family traits are only positive and not negative so we’ll
call this next one “independent” and not “stubborn.” PawPaw was a man who knew how to take care of
himself, and did so right until the end.
He drove himself to town to get a part
for his tractor the day before he died, and you can bet that he was going to
make sure that tractor kept running so he could ride it. Last spring, we came down to help clean up
their yard after an ice storm, and we used both a tractor and a lawn mower to
move a ton of brush. At one point,
PawPaw went through all the directions of how to drive the lawn mower with my
husband, telling him step by step how it worked. Brent was all ready to take over and give him
a break, but instead he just cranked it back up and kept going. Brent sort of looked at me and shrugged
saying, “I guess all that was just a matter of information.” I laughed and
replied, “You didn’t actually think he was going to let you drive it, did you?”
Which brings me
to my next point: PawPaw was quite possibly the most hardworking man I’ve ever
known. If it could be done, he could do
it and do it himself. He was creative,
innovative, and willing to try new things- every visit to their house
inevitably turned into show and tell of what he’d come up with most
recently. There are many things that
cause me to call my dad “PawPaw” jokingly on a regular basis, but perhaps this
is the trait that I see most clearly living on.
If something needs to be built, invented, or fixed, go see those Hall
boys—they get it honest and they won’t let you down.
Not only did PawPaw
teach his family well, he also loved us well.
He truly cared about every member of his family and we never entered or
left that house without a hug, an “I love you,” and a “Come see us again.” This was true for his children and us
grandchildren, as well as whomever we brought with us- our dates and our
friends. If you are there with someone
MawMaw and PawPaw love, then you are loved as well- no questions asked. PawPaw simply loved people- I believe in
exactly the way that God wants us to love other people. With a smile, with an occasional word of
advice, and often with an offer to help- however he was needed, however he
could.
One of my
favorite memories about PawPaw is that he always, always had a new stuffed
animal for us when we were little. Often
they came from those stuffed animal machines at the grocery store, the ones
with that frustrating claw that no one can really operate- except, our course,
for PawPaw. As we got older and didn’t
want the stuffed animals anymore, he would tell us stories of still capturing
those stuffed animals with the claw but instead of saving them for us, he’d
pass them out to random children at the grocery store. He’d always smile as he talked about the
looks on their unsuspecting faces- nothing made him happier than making someone
else happy. In my opinion, there’s no
clearer proof of a good man than that and I couldn’t be prouder that he was my
PawPaw.